You might just be wondering, asking yourself what reason you have to actually read this article, and that’s a fair question you know. I suppose I am just a random voice on the internet, but I offer you this: I’m on the other side of where you are now.
I made it through high school. I even recently made it through college, got married and got blessed with cute lovely kids as you must have imagined. I’ve gone through the teenage years, and I’ve made it to real life. I’ve picked up a few nuggets of wisdom along the way that I think you’ll find pertinent to your life. And if you have no other reason to read this, do it because your mom asked you to – Lolz
There are few ‘things’ I dislike more in this world than a paedophile, and one of them is formality. I can’t stand it. When things get serious, I’m the kind who just jokes about it. It keeps me in my comfort zone. But right now we’re going to have to talk about some pretty serious stuff. Let the fact that I’m taking the time to write this be evidence of how passionate I am about it. Take the message seriously – even if you hate it. This is practically some tough pieces of advice all young teenage guys need to hear.
1. Stay Humble
Humility is the cure of Pride, which happens to be a the root of every real problem in life. That can be hard for a teenager (you) to swallow. You’re trying to find your place in the world. You’re not a kid anymore and you want respect, but you’re still subject to the rule of your parents and teachers. You’re prepping for the rest of your life, and a lot of people are going to get in your case about it.
I understand you want respect at all cost, so you have to stay humble. You’ve got to accept corrections. You need to understand other people’s views and opinions. You must be willing to admit and change something you are wrong about.
The few symptoms of pride that you might be familiar with about yourself, but too big to correct are;
- Talking back to teachers/parents
- Talking bad about others behind their backs
- Ignoring instructions from parents
- Insulting others
- Not recognizing your own faults or not apologizing for them
If all these rings true in your vein, you only need to work on fixing them. Change these habits and it’ll get you far in life.
2. Be careful with your smartphone
I know you have a smartphone, as you are probably reading this piece from one. Count yourself as extremely lucky. Those things have more power than we’ll ever realize, and some people abuse it horrifically. So, a few words of advice below *big grin*
Point one: If you wouldn’t say it to their face, don’t text it, Instagram it, Tweet it, Snap it, Whisper it, Tumblr it, Reddit it or Facebook it. This goes back to our first point about being humble. If you have a point to make, make it without inciting contention and purposefully insulting others.
You are definitely going to encounter opinions differing from your own on the World Wide Web. It’s just a fact of millennial existence. One measure of your character is how you react when you stumbled upon those opinions. Will you engage in social media warfare in the comments section? Or will you engage in a constructive exchange of opinions?
Do not bully others online. That’s serious stuff, and people die from it these days.. See one here
Point two: Don’t spend your time looking at pornography on your phone. Porn will sabotage real future relationships and destroy your character to the extreme. This is a much more serious problem than you may realize.
3. Who cares what your friends think
Sounds like you’ve heard this one before, but I’m going to say it again: Once high school is over, you’re going to lose contact with 95 percent of your friends (Not about liking an occasional Facebook post – that’s no “keeping contact”).
So make sure you spend those years being you. There’s a misconception that you spend high school “figuring out” who you are. No. You spend high school creating yourself. Build yourself into the person you want to be.
Giving in to negative peer pressure just to fit in isn’t worth it. If you see someone being bullied at school, stand up for them. Be kind. Be friendly to the friendless. Those are the things people remember you for in high school. Plus, those are the things that matter.
4. When it comes to the ladies, chill
Keep those hormones coursing through your veins under proper control. It’ll save you a lot of potential problems, and it’ll save your parents from about 400 untimely grey hairs.
Be careful about getting too serious with someone during the high school years. Becoming a first-time parent should only happen when you’re no longer living with your own parents. Maybe I’m old-fashioned – maybe it’s a primitive kind of advice from a remote country, but it makes sense to me. You shouldn’t be in any hurry. Be smart about your relationships, especially as it relates to timing.
5. Actually, your parents know what they’re talking about
Don’t close off just yet. Just bear with me here. I know it kills you to hear this, and you might be rolling your eyes at the screen thinking this is just another lecture on respecting your elders. Just chill out for a minute and keep an open mind.
Your parents weren’t born old and annoying. Just like you are, they were once young too. I understand that more with each passing year. When they give you rules and advice, it really is because they want the best for you, and they’re all too familiar with the dangers you’re up against every day. Now, I am beginning to sound like that old uncle in the family, but then, I am sorry this is something you have to learn about.
You parents might not be cool – or maybe they still don’t know that wearing tiny and skinny jean is the shit in vogue, but they love you and they’re worth paying attention to.
Trust me, you’re going to be great
The world is scary enough. Anyone with the ability to improve it has the responsibility to fulfil. You have that ability. Be the best person you can today, not tomorrow! If you make that effort today, it’ll become a habit tomorrow as well as every other day. Then it becomes who you are. Don’t be afraid to make changes. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes either, but handle them with humility. I hope to see you at the top too.