Every teenager is always looking up to competing with friends, with most going as far as getting caught up in unusual circumstances. This, in most case, exposes them to numerous assaults. They want to keep this away from their parents as far as possible, but it is so heartbreaking to go through these lots and unable to share with a third party.
The world is dangerous itself, and you must ensure you do all it takes to get your wards on a safer side. While any topic on sexual assault and all other risks attached might not be the kind of article you like to read right now, you should at least be aware that there is no better timing to get educated in this regard. Don’t wait until your teen takes to the street on a permanent basis. Frequently build a solid relationship with them through communication to enhance your trust in them and vice versa.
Child Safety Tips
Below are some well-researched information and safety tips for kids to help keep your teen safe in a dangerous world:
Support your teen
Ultimately, you can’t protect your child from any consequences that come after their own action but you are in a better way to guide them through doing the proper thing, so it doesn’t lead to situations which render you helpless. No matter what your child does, you want to make sure they feel very comfortable calling and running back to you for advice or assistance. Any other issues are basically minor if their safety is guaranteed. Make this known to your teen and help him stay out of trouble.
Agree on emergency codes and be their ‘partners in crime’
Here is a very important part to ensure your child safety at all time – create a word, signal or code to use when calling or texting you for emergency assistance. Sometimes, your teen may be hooked in a public place or among friends, and might not feel comfortable making use of the right words so as not to further get herself into greater trouble. For example, create a code like ‘hot’ to mean ‘danger’. So, when your child gets into trouble, she may put a call/text through, and say something like “I urgently need a hot tea”. This should mean they urgently need you to come over to their rescue, or you need them to return home instantly.
Educate your teen about the existence of date rape drugs
It sure exists! Even though you may not be able to list the names and how they work, the important thing is to let your teen know about existing drugs like this, and how dangerous they could be to their health and life generally. Educate your teen how those who have been injected with these terrible drugs feel and act. Yes, they will continue to walk and talk more than usual, but won’t pass out in most cases. Encourage your child to speak out or call for help whenever she gets some strange feelings. Most importantly, assure them they will never get into trouble for telling you about it, even though we may both agree they have made some bad choices.
Other important areas worth focusing on are serving of foods and drinks in a party. Teach your teen never to accept items from strangers at parties. They can always say no to offers in a non-offensive manner. If anyone offers your teen an already opened can of drink, for instance, they must not drink! Also, if for any reason, your teens set her food or drinks down and walk away from it; probably to attend to a call or other issues, tell them not to return to it – Throwing them away would definitely be a better option.
When outdoor, encourage them to maintain a group in safe locations
Talk about staying in safe locations that are not open to any form of attack. As strong as Lions could be even in the documentaries, they cannot attack a group of elephants moving together. If in an outing, encourage your teen to do things together in groups. For instance, tell them to go to the bathroom in a group. This to some extent discourages all form of attacks.
Encourage your child to make true friends
True friends are those who would stay by you in a time of trouble, respect your decisions and do what they can to ensure your safety. Encourage your child to make real friends that can watch their back and swing into active actions when you get into trouble. You should also teach your child to always speak up when they notice their friends acting strangely, or going somewhere alone without informing them. You can set up a meeting with all the friends of your child and tutor them in this regard. Confirm they can always reach you via phone calls while ensuring they all have your phone numbers. You can also meet up with their parents to further strengthen the bond and trust.
Avoid blaming the victim
There are different approaches on how people point out faults in every situation where an assault is committed. The sympathizers blame the victim;
- for not fighting back or running away
- for being in that location in the first place
- for not asking for help in time
- for not speaking out when she becomes suspicious
We all respond to fears in our own different ways. Some of us scream and shout, some run, some of us fight back and some of us just keep calm and take whatever happens. All these are easier said than done because they weren’t involved in this situation but your teen. The assaulted on the other hand blames herself. ‘This wouldn’t have happened if;
- I wasn’t dressed this way
- I never followed him
- I drag with him/them
- I fought back
Unfortunately, worst things happen to good and decent looking individuals too, because preys choose their victims based on their own specifications and the opportunity presented to them at that time. The best you can do as a parent is to be thankful to your teen for doing HER BEST to stay alive.
Whatever your child has done to come out alive is the best she can do. Just tell her you support whatever she did to stay out that way. You should contact your nearest local law enforcement and report the situation as they are. If you would consider taking this step, don’t have your teen eat, drink, change her clothes or use the bathroom yet to help the law enforcement take more evidence.
No matter what they do, make sure your teen knows you love them. Open an atmosphere for easy communication with your child so they can share whatever experience they go through with you before any further damage is done. These are basically an effective and working safety tips for kids.